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Step away from the keyboard and put an extra slab of mayo on my sandwich

11 Mar

After having some conversations with friends about the reactions to the USC Kappa Sigma Gullet Report email, it occurs to me that I may have fallen into the category of the over-reacting, over-sensitive feminist. This asshole would equate me to a “self righteous slut like Margaret Hartmann who think[s] everything [she] read[s] on the internet is the end of the world.”

He would then go on to tell me that “guys are dicks sometimes.  Guys send out emails to their friends that make jokes about other people.  Frat bros are misogynistic.  Bloggers are misogynistic.  Misogynism is funny.  Deal with.  I mean, not to point out the obvious but didn’t some chick at Duke release a 50 page powerpoint presentation to the entire internet about all the dudes she fucked?  … Typical chicks.   Do me a favor honey and next time you’re going to type up a condemnation of every dude in the country over a joke, step away from the keyboard and put an extra slab of mayo on my sandwich.”

All right. Here’s the deal. I have a pretty good sense of humor. I can take a joke. I can laugh when my guy friends tease me about being a feminist by cracking jokes about making them sandwiches. If I had only read segments of the Kappa Sigma email, I probably would have laughed – and if I read it as though it was satire, it’s spot on.

But do you want to know why I take offense at this email and subsequent blog attention? The thing that makes me most angry is that we find this shit funny in the first place, that our society is in a place that allows and encourages us to find demeaning sexual humor and humiliation FUNNY.  What the fuck.  How did we get to a place where we view a sexual experience as an opportunity to ridicule someone (or an entire group of people) for things they have no control over (the color of their skin, the shape or size of their labia, the “grip” of their vaginal walls)?

[Sidebar: This reminded me of the time a couple years ago when the term FUPA was a big thing. When I first heard what FUPA meant, I was shocked and disgusted that my guy friends, who I would pal around with every day (and considered to be very respectful towards women) would talk about, make fun of, let alone HAVE AN ACRONYM FOR a part of a girl’s body that should never be ridiculed for its appearance. Shouldn’t you be celebrating the fact that you got the chance to see a FUPA in the first place?]

How do we live in a world where a guy like Tucker Max will sell out stadiums on college campuses in 15 minutes while we can’t get enough students to register to vote? How is it that rape culture in this country is promulgated through our news media, fashion industry, and pretty much all other aspects of popular culture?

It’s engrained in the anonymous nature of the blogosphere, and in the supporting comments of “extra slab of mayo on my sandwich” guy and of the USC email:

(RandyMossRules) There is nothing wrong with this. It’s just guys’ way to talk about hooking up. Like girls don’t sit around and do the same shit too, right? Give the kid an A- for the ingenuity of some of those names.
 He’s dead on about the Middle Eastern chicks too.

(jackofspades) “Do me a favor honey and next time you’re going to type up a condemnation of every dude in the country over a joke, step away from the keyboard and put an extra slab of mayo on my sandwich.” Yup…that about sums up my thoughts.

It’s a dangerous place for women when the rape culture is reinforced through popular humor and culture, where we continue to shame victims of sexual assault and violence, where we continue to hold double standards for the sexes. That’s why I think it’s important to support the creation of forums for the discussion of hate speech against women and sexual violence on college campuses and in our society, as some grad students from USC have proposed.

I’ll stop rambling on about how distressed I am at my seemingly insignificant ability to change the world and end with this: it only takes a conversation to get the ball of change moving in a forward motion. Talk to your guy friends about this; ask them if they’ve ever been in conversations like this with other guys. Ask them why this kind of stuff is funny to them. Get some sort of dialogue started.

This post is brought to you by Tara, who is grossed out by large quantities of mayo but enjoys it on sandwiches.

USC Grad Students, FTW

11 Mar

An update on what USC is doing about the pie and gullet pig who wrote a violence-inciting,  frat-shaming, lady-hating email to a fraternity: Nothing.

The students, on the other hand, are getting organized. Some USC grad students have drafted a lovely letter (probably a lot nicer than what yours truly would have said, but maybe I’ll update you on that later) to the University President. You can check it out on Facebook. Or read my favorite little excerpt here….

That the reprehensible views of women and people of color propagated in the email casts the entire university community in a negative light goes without saying, but what compels us to write today is an even more serious issue. Amid the various hateful statements the author makes, he encourages his fellow fraternity brothers to use drugs and alcohol to incapacitate the women they date, telling these young men that “Non-consent and rape are two different things.” This statement goes beyond hate speech; it is an incitement to sexual violence. What was most shocking about the article was that the USC administration has announced that they will not conduct an investigation of the author (if he is indeed a USC student) or the organization involved in disseminating this shocking email until the national fraternity has completed its own internal investigation.

Some of us, in our daily interactions with undergraduate students at USC as graduate instructors, have had female undergraduates express confusion, anxiety and fear about the prevalent threat of sexual violence at Greek events on and near the USC campus, and have described dismissive treatment by the USC officials from whom they seek help. Others of us have faced recalcitrance from the administration when reporting hate speech against women in our own classrooms. Despite the many exemplary men and women involved with the Greek system at USC, this public embarrassment has revealed both the presence of a culture of sexual violence within the Greek system at USC, and that system’s failure to eradicate that culture on its own.

Rock on, grad students.

This post is brought to you by Rachel.

Sincerely, The Pie and the Gullet

9 Mar

As young ladies, we wrote to our pen pals. As young activists, we write to our senators. And as young women, we should write to the very same people who give us a reason to call ourselves feminists.

By now, you may have seen this Jezebel post, or through some other means found out about the vile, disgusting “filth” that is an email being circulated around the USC campus, and now the world, via social media. A member from the University of Southern California’s Kappa Sigma fraternity sent a memo to his brothers informing them of the instating of a weekly Gullet Report.

What is a “Gullet Report,” you might be asking yourself? And what’s a “gullet” for that matter?

Well, my friends, I will have to quote the “Ksig” himself:

Gullet: Usually refers to a target’s mouth and throat. Most often pertains to a target’s throat capacity and it’s ability to gobble cock. If a target is known to have a good gullet, it can deep-throat dick extremely well. My advice is to seek out this target early in the night. Good Gullet Girls (GGG) are always scooped up well before last call.

(Sidebar: As offended as I was reading this, I was also offended that he co-opted Dan Savage’s GGG, which is supposed to mean Good, Giving, and Game. Dick.)

As you may have been able to infer, the “target” is a female. The email is full of all sorts of colorful phrases for women and their genitalia, but I’ll leave it for you to read, because I’m afraid of what might happen if I read it again.

While the “incident” is still under investigation by Ksig’s national organization, the email is going viral – and I’d venture to say the Kappa Sigma guys are too, because as the author writes, “no feeling on earth can compare to a warm piece of pie coming in contact with your cock. Let’s be honest, if it isn’t raw it isn’t real. Drawbacks of this philosophy are that you may have to visit the clinic more often than not, but a quick penicillin shot really isn’t that bad (trust me).”

Thanks to the wonders of modern technology, we have easy access to their contact information, including their phone numbers and house address – because they put it all on their website.

I am proposing we start a letter-writing and phone calling campaign, to which you can address your letters here:

Kappa Sigma Delta Eta, USC Chapter

928 W 28th St

Los Angeles, CA 90007

If you happen to be in the Los Angeles area, their website also provides directions to their home, so I suggest you stop by and pay them a visit. If pie is what they’re looking for, I’d give it to them – a pie in the face with your left hand followed by a punch in the face with the right. But hey, I shouldn’t be inciting violence.

SO! PEN PALS! What are we going to do? Should we draft a form letter that you can print and send? Should we send them small boxes filled with rotten eggs or ziplocks of used tampons?

Give us your ideas and start licking envelopes!

This post is brought to you by Tara, who is the queen of pie.

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