If you haven’t seen it yet, the New York Times has published a follow-up article on the Texas gang-rape story. We posted shortly after the story broke and will be writing our own follow-up soon, after we’ve talked through our reactions—emotional, logical, practical. Until then, we’d like to share one of our writer’s initial thoughts…. Continue reading
An update on what USC is doing about the pie and gullet pig who wrote a violence-inciting, frat-shaming, lady-hating email to a fraternity: Nothing.
The students, on the other hand, are getting organized. Some USC grad students have drafted a lovely letter (probably a lot nicer than what yours truly would have said, but maybe I’ll update you on that later) to the University President. You can check it out on Facebook. Or read my favorite little excerpt here….
That the reprehensible views of women and people of color propagated in the email casts the entire university community in a negative light goes without saying, but what compels us to write today is an even more serious issue. Amid the various hateful statements the author makes, he encourages his fellow fraternity brothers to use drugs and alcohol to incapacitate the women they date, telling these young men that “Non-consent and rape are two different things.” This statement goes beyond hate speech; it is an incitement to sexual violence. What was most shocking about the article was that the USC administration has announced that they will not conduct an investigation of the author (if he is indeed a USC student) or the organization involved in disseminating this shocking email until the national fraternity has completed its own internal investigation.
Some of us, in our daily interactions with undergraduate students at USC as graduate instructors, have had female undergraduates express confusion, anxiety and fear about the prevalent threat of sexual violence at Greek events on and near the USC campus, and have described dismissive treatment by the USC officials from whom they seek help. Others of us have faced recalcitrance from the administration when reporting hate speech against women in our own classrooms. Despite the many exemplary men and women involved with the Greek system at USC, this public embarrassment has revealed both the presence of a culture of sexual violence within the Greek system at USC, and that system’s failure to eradicate that culture on its own.
Rock on, grad students.
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What I do have a problem with is the idea that I deserve that treatment from men simply because I have a vagina. Sure, if I’m walking into a building behind someone else, it’s great if they hold the door open for me. I do that for people all the time. It’s common courtesy. But having a guy rush up to open the door for me is totally unnecessary. If that’s your thing, go with it.
I can pay for my own dinner. I get that the idea of a man paying for a woman’s meals has been romanticized, but honestly, I prefer the idea of a man respecting my wish to pay for my food with the money that I worked hard to earn.
The whole threat-of-rape issue that makes women feel as though they cannot walk at night by themselves is a sad truth in our society. But that doesn’t mean that I always need an escort home. The idea that women are the only ones at risk if they walk home by themselves is insulting to me. Guys can get mugged, assaulted, raped. Why can’t we just all look out for each other?
I don’t think there is such a thing as “necessity of chivalry.” I think there is a need for the respect and common courtesy that I mentioned earlier. We can all benefit from that, regardless of gender.
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