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Let’s Discuss: Good Men

29 Nov

Chloe: I don’t want to kill the buzz but this article has been floating around my newsfeed and I thought it was a good read.


I wrote a typical Chloe diatribe on my Facebook (posted below) and will probably read the article again and think more on it — I want to give a disclaimer first and point out that I agree with mostly all of what the author is saying: I work with a community of men that has fundamentally changed my own feminism because I FEEL so much better now what it is like to be a poor (and/or) black/Hispanic man, at least in urban Westchester/NYC communities.  And I do not feel like these men are necessarily “my enemies” anymore — while a lot of them do horrible things (including rape and murder, oh god no) and should be held accountable, I wonder how many of them would make the same decisions were it not for the same system that encourages patriarchy in the first place?  Anyway.  But my main thing is that it reminds me of this blog I read awhile back about Schrodinger’s rapist.. lemme see… here it is!

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Let’s Discuss: SlutWalkNYC and Racism

5 Oct

Maureen: Really?

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Is something wrong with this picture?

16 Sep

Maybe I just have a dirty mind or maybe Learn Vest did a terrible crop job… But at first/quick glance, it looks like their tips for landing your first job after graduation seems to include being a hot Asian and taking it from behind.

Just sayin.

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Got PMS? Get Milk.

25 Jul

My husband asked me if I had seen/heard all the buzz surrounding the new and sexists got milk ADs today and sent me this wonderful link. The milk campaign compiles all the controversial tweets/fb posts/articles/ and video footage all wrapped up in one place with a bow. Apparently as of Thursday, they decided to stop running the campaign (formerly “Everything I Do is Wrong.org”) due to a bunch of pissed off ladies (and men).

They also link to a supposed study done about milk/calcium intake improving PMS symptoms but it all sounds like a bunch of bullshit. I eat tons of cheese, yogurt and cheerios DAILY and my period/cramps still suck to high heaven. So bite me California milk board.

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Laying Down the Parenting Law

11 Jul

A couple weeks ago, my friend Jess and I took my son to see Wild Ocean, a new IMAX movie playing at the Science Center in Baltimore. He was totally stoked to see a 3D movie (only his second movie going experience) and get a chance to be up-close and personal with sharks!

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Bon Iver: A (pretentious) album review

27 Jun

You know what I love more than pretentious music? Pretentious music reviews.

For the last couple weeks, I’ve been taking in the new Bon Iver record, Bon Iver, via NPR’s first listen stream and have really fallen in love. I could write my own record review, but why do that when hundreds of people have taken the verbose words straight out of my mouth?

Well actually, I would have probably just explained that it is a hauntingly good album that should be played straight though, on repeat. But other people’s thoughts are way more interesting. I bring you a compilation of the most amazingly pompous Bon Iver reviews (my personal faves are the underlined ones): Continue reading

To snip or not to snip: That, and other questions…

8 Jun

You know what (or who) I find obnoxious? People who want to tell you what to do with your own body. This sounds like familiar territory for sure. But I’m not talking about a word that rhymes with proportion, I’m talking about circumcision.

To snip or not to snip? To ban or not to ban? These are the questions. Continue reading

Dear FLOTUS, teach us how to dougie

4 May

Ok so I have to gush. I love Michelle Obama. I mean really, who doesn’t? She is the epitome of class, style, and grace – I could go on and on but I have a feeling you love her as much as I do.

Whenever I have one of those moments where I want to rip someone’s throat out, I try to channel my inner Michelle and think WWMOD? Continue reading

Let’s talk about stress, baby

27 Apr

TMI: I’ve got herpes. Continue reading

What are women good for? Making babies, of course.

13 Apr

It never fails. Whenever we go to business related functions for my husbands’ job, whenever I’m at the grocery store and some nosy soccer mom wants to be chatty, or even amongst my own relatives, the questions is always: ‘So when are you going to have another one?’

Another what? Another job? Another house? Another dog? Oh, you mean another child. Continue reading

Barefoot for a cause

6 Apr

Hi there,

It’s your resident do-gooder here!

Yesterday was a great day (and not just because the DNC elected its first female chair ever!).

April 5 was awesome because I walked in solidarity with hundreds of thousands of TOMS supporters, and more importantly, the millions of children who have no choice but to walk, run, fetch water and live their lives barefoot everyday. Continue reading

Disclaimers Suck. (and so does taking diversity for granted)

30 Mar

To me, using a disclaimer is as good as saying no offense. Saying ‘no offense’ at the beginning of a statement is as useless as white bread because typically, you end up offending someone. I’ve said all that to say, Continue reading

G. L. A. M. O. R. O. U. S. (You saw this coming…)

23 Mar

Ok, so I have a dilemma. I’m a woman, I work at a women’s organization, I support female equality and yet according to my iPod, I can’t stand to listen to female voices. Out of the 100+ artists on my iPod, only about 10 are female.


Do I get extra points if I can name all of them in one fell swoop? Fiona Apple, Adele, Feist, Eisley, Stars, Sara Bareilles, She & Him, Rilo Kiley, Tegan & Sara, Metric, and (totally not embarrassed to admit) Kelly Clarkson.

I should be ashamed of the lack of female representation on my iPod, but I’m not. My tolerance is quite low for females creating music that is often really shitty and mainstream (Friday girl). I didn’t say non-existent, just low.

Of course there is a slew of independent female artists that I could listen to, but don’t. I own up to it: I like dudes.

That being said, sometimes it’s really hard to get motivated to do squats and lift weights when all I’m listening to is whiny indie boys and their guitars.

Insert pop divas. I recently downloaded some popular made-by-ladies tunes that I keep on auto-repeat at my gym.  Among them:  ‘Hollaback Girl,’ by Gwen, ‘Single Ladies,’ by Beyonce, and ‘Glamorous,’ by Fergie, the artist who has now dominated my ‘most recently played’ list.

Do I sip champagne in First Class? No.

Do I make hit records? No.

Am I on the covers of magazines? No.

Is my life working at a nonprofit, and being a college student/wife /mother glamorous? Hell no.

And I don’t even know what ‘flossy’ means….

So why do I love and relate to a song I would otherwise cringe at? Three words. Keep. It. Real.

“Wear them gold and diamonds rings, all them things don’t mean a thing… I be on the movie screens

Magazines and bougie scenes…I’m not clean, I’m not pristine, I’m no queen, I’m no machine…

I don’t care, I’m still real.”

I could be an elitist and scoff at the obvious grammatical errors of the lyrics, point out the fact that Ludacris makes a better actor than rapper, and mention that Fergie isn’t really that great of a singer/entertainer (see:Superbowl). Or I can just be real and admit I like the song; it reminds me of what matters in life and most importantly, it gets me moving on the Stairmaster.

Oh, and thanks to Fergie Ferg, I learned how to spell glamorous. That’s the real reason this is my female power ballad.

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Ryan Gosling Who? Blue Valentine’s Got Lady Power

4 Feb

I know I’m late to get on the review train of Blue Valentine. So what, who cares? All you need to know is the following may contain some spoilers.

I am not a moviegoer and I maybe go once a year. But I had been anticipating the release of Blue Valentine since its release at Sundance last year.

Despite knowing the plot, I was confident the movie was going to be great because my favorite actor, Ryan Gosling, is one of the stars. And well, he can do no wrong. However, I walked away from Blue Valentine completely moved and in awe of his female co-star, Michelle Williams. Ryan Gosling who?  Williams’ genuine performance and portrayal of Cindy, a woman in a deteriorating marriage, was raw, realistic, and yes, empowering.

In short form, boy and girl fall in love. Boy takes responsibility for baby he knows isn’t his. Boy and girl get married and start their family. Fast forward to four years later and they are on the brink of divorce. There are multiple and complex factors as to why Cindy (Williams) finally reaches her breaking point. In my eyes, the fact that she reaches it and asks for a divorce is empowering.  I am the daughter of a woman who stayed in an unhappy marriage because it was ‘the right thing to do for the children.’ So, to watch Cindy make the difficult decision with her daughter in mind was heart wrenching but refreshing.

Everyone I have talked to walked away from this movie with the reaction, “Gosh, that was depressing,” simply because the two main characters split up. To me, the film was not just a reflection of marriages, but relationships in general and the fragility of love. In the age of contrived, typical Hollywood feel-good bullshit endings, Blue Valentine was different. It was real. Despite America’s high divorce rate, it’s still obvious that most of us harbor the notions of happily ever after endings that we have been spoon-fed since birth and deviation from the norm shakes us up.

Life is messy, sometimes it hurts, and its problems can’t be solved in 1 hour and 10 minutes with perfect lighting and a catchy soundtrack (no matter what Judd Apatow tries to sell us). BV was so honest that people tend to react in one of two ways. They can relate to it and appreciate it as a great story that explores the darker side of relationships. Or, they can shut down and think “Whoa, that’s way too heavy for me. When is the next romantic comedy coming out?” and miss the mark the director was trying to hit.

For her performance, Williams has received a 2011 Oscar nod for Best Actress and although she faces tough competition (Hello, Natalie Portman for Black Swan), I think she stands a chance at winning. Regardless of the outcome, Blue Valentine holds a special place in my heart (and my head) for whenever I need a dose of reality.

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The Human Cost of Your Ipod

7 Jan

The ultimate season of giving has just passed, but the opportunity to reflect on its meaning has not.

So allow me to ask some tough questions. How many give out of sincerity and not just the notion of reciprocity? Let me push a little bit further by asking how many give realizing the true costs of the gifts they give? Did a small child work tirelessly to make it? Is it possible a young woman died so that you could have it?

Our heavily commercialized holiday season bombards us with fat Santa’s, shiny bling and the latest and greatest tech treats. Our culture turns the dial to the max with the  ‘buy, buy, buy’ mentality, rather than ‘think about the process this item has gone through to get to you.’

The truth is, if you gifted a cell phone, laptop, iPod or digital camera this holiday season, you helped contribute to the deadliest conflict since World War II.

What conflict, you ask?

The ongoing war in the Congo. Having claimed the lives of more than 5 million people and displaced hundreds of thousands, this war is fueled by the excessive sales of electronics worldwide.

How? The complicated, yet simple explanation goes like this: militia’s in the Congo earn millions of dollars per year by mining and selling minerals such as tin, tantalum, tungsten and gold to middle men who then sell to electronic manufactures globally.

The winners = profitable electronic companies with no accountability and the vicious militias that continue a cycle of violence.

The losers = innocent Congolese civilians and the American people who unknowingly contribute to systematic rape and murder.

Remember supply and demand from Econ 101? The more we demand electronics, the more these products will be produced. I’m not suggesting that we stop using them — that’s unrealistic and absurd. However, we as consumers hold the power to demand that our electronics are conflict free  hold companies accountable for the minerals they purchase.

As advocates for women’s rights in addition to human rights, we cannot forget those who suffer for our indulgences. There is a human cost of our purchases and honestly, no cell phone, iPod, or camera is worth it. Just sayin’.

You can’t take back what you purchased, but you can move forward and take action.

I leave you the conflict free gift of a song by Thrice that changed my life when I first heard it seven years ago. The lyrics still give me chills but I hope it gets you thinking.

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