When I heard this story I was dumbfounded. Our conversation went something like this:
ME: You kissed her again?!
HIM: Well, yeah.
ME: Yeah, because no doesn’t mean no until you say it twice.
HIM: Whoa. It was a kiss. It’s not like I… you know. I would never do that.
I mean, I acknowledge the blatant degree of difference between a kiss and sex, but doesn’t that whole “no means no” statute hold up in any case of advancement? And,
2. Was this girl, or are women in general, participating in a subconscious game of “cat and mouse,” which encourages male persistence and female coyness?
Are women hesitant to connect with their desires because they’ve been conditioned to think it would make them “slutty,” “easy,” or “taken advantage of”? Are women playing into society’s acceptance of relentless male persistence by “holding out” at first until they finally “give in”… perhaps not so much to their admirer as to their own underlying desires?
**Ugh, gag me.* Don’t even get me started on the perceived illegitimacy of all. other. sexual acts besides this one.
*Ex. Proper verbal consent to bondage.